Toddlers don’t come with a manual and some days it feels like they should. Between meltdowns over the wrong colour cup, resistance to getting dressed and endless curiosity about everything they shouldn’t touch, parents are often left wondering, “What the heck am I supposed to do right now?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone. Every parent of a toddler has been there: feeling stuck, second-guessing themselves and wishing there was a step-by-step guide for getting through these years. While no manual exists, there is a powerful tool you can lean on: play.
Why Play Works
Play isn’t just fun; it’s a toddler’s first language. Children explore the world, learn new skills and process big feelings through imagination. Research shows that play lowers stress, strengthens relationships and makes cooperation more likely.
When parents weave play into daily routines, they shift the dynamic from control to connection. Instead of demanding compliance, you’re inviting your child into something they already understand and enjoy. For toddlers, this feels safe and engaging which makes cooperation more likely. Who doesn’t want more connection and cooperation with their toddler?
Play in Practice: Everyday Strategies
The good news? You don’t have to be endlessly creative or energetic. Small doses of playful connection can go a long way. Here are a few ways to try it at home:
• Turn routines into games. Try racing to see who can put shoes on first, or sing a silly song while brushing teeth.
• Add pretend to tricky tasks. The toothbrush becomes a car wash for teeth. The laundry basket turns into a rocket ship.
• Role-reversal play. Let your toddler be the “parent” giving you directions for two minutes. This helps them feel empowered and often makes them more willing to follow directions afterward.
• Sprinkle in silliness. Use a funny voice, make a pretend mistake or move like your favourite animal on the way to the car. Laughter is one of the fastest ways to diffuse tension.
Play Without Pressure
What if being playful doesn’t come naturally?
• You didn’t grow up with playful parents. Start small: a silly wink or quick race is enough.
• You’re tired. Try low-energy play like a high-five game or a funny voice.
• You worry about losing authority. Remember: playful doesn’t mean permissive. You can be both silly and firm.
• You don’t know what to do. Let your toddler lead. They’ve got enough imagination for both of you.
Play is a Parenting Tool, Not a Performance
For many parents, being playful doesn’t always come easily. You may feel awkward, exhausted or unsure of what to do. That’s okay. Play doesn’t have to be elaborate or constant. Even 30 seconds of silliness can shift the energy, reduce resistance and create a moment of connection.
The truth is, parenting toddlers will never come with a manual, but you don’t need one. Imagination and playfulness are often the next best thing. They help you guide your child through big feelings, lighten the hardest moments and remind you both that connection matters more than control. With play in your pocket, you already have one of the best tools there is.
